People, come on!

I am the type of person that if I have a problem with you I will eventually come up to you and say something in a loving way most of the time but I am not perfect so sometimes I don't handle it the right way. Now this could just be me expecting everyone to be like me, but isn't that what you are suppose to do? You aren't suppose to go through a middle man and have them say something because then nothing really gets resolved. Last night I was asked if my feelings were hurt by the person in the middle and I said no because she didn't hurt my feelings, she might have confused me but not hurt my feelings. The other person who has the problem did because she didn't come to me. I am sure she can give me a thousand excuses as to why she didn't but still she should have come to me. One thing I have learned is to never assume things but she is obviously assuming some things about me and that isn't right. I have been nothing but nice to her. I give up groups to keep the peace even when I am told that I can have them so that she doesn't feel hurt or frustrated because that is what I am suppose to do. Eventhough I have done so much work it's whatever because I would rather live at peace than have tension but peace is one thing that I cannot have right now though because she didn't come to me so nothing is resolved, she got her way because I submitted but that's it. I just don't understand but I guess that I am not skilled to understand everything.